The end of a pregnancy. The loss of an embryo that didn’t take.
It’s shit. Utterly shit.
Regardless of whether your pregnancy was planned or not, or if you knew you were pregnant for two days or two months; when a pregnancy ends, it sucks.
There’s barely *any* acknowledgement of pregnancy loss in our society, despite it being common. Most of the time it’s a very private experience so we don’t get the support we could really do with. Even when people do know, they don’t know what to say or they say the wrong thing. We’re left feeling like crap and somehow expected to “get on with life”. As if it’s that easy.
The grief and sadness of your embryo(s) not taking can be just as devastating as a miscarriage. You’re not just processing the news and your emotional response, your body is also working hard to process the drug protocol you’ve been on – it’s no wonder women feel so deflated, depleted and depressed after an unsuccessful IVF cycle.
Then there’s the pressure to crack on with things: To get back to work after all the time you’ve had off running all over London to have your IVF related appointments, to keep trying to conceive “naturally” when you’ve gained half a stone, feel like crap and your libido is as flat as a pancake, to come up with a plan for what’s next on your journey to motherhood.
When you’ve had a termination.
Our society doesn’t create much space for healing from miscarriages, let alone terminations, and I feel strongly that women who have had them need to know there’s somewhere they can go to be cared for without being judged.
What my treatments do.
Being cared for by another woman can be an experience that allows you to gently open up, soften … and perhaps let go of what you feel ready to release. Simply put, these treatments are about receiving love and loving yourself.
Appointments like this are longer then my usual ones, that’s so that we have the opportunity to talk through whatever you want to, do a nourishing treatment, and then have a cuppa before you head home.
I don’t charge extra for this.
Despite pregnancy loss being common, it’s usually something we go through in private so we don’t get the support we need. I know that when women come to see me, they often have a lot to unload and are grateful for the chance to truly be themselves and be upfront about what they’ve gone through, that’s not something I wish to rush.