Some women aren’t into oral.
It’s a bit tricky for me to put myself in their position because I love it. Some would say I’m a natural. When I do it, I feel powerful and enjoy knowing that what I’m doing is affecting someone in a profound way.
The women I’ve spoken to who aren’t into it, have told me that:
- They feel awkward and stiff.
- They get very little or no enjoyment out of it.
- They fumble and things just don’t flow.
- There’s other stuff they’re skilled at which they’d rather do.
- They feel a degree of performance anxiety.
- They don’t have a clue what they’re doing (or so they tell themselves).
I’m about to make life easier for you.
Whether you’re a woman who feels at home delivering oral *presentations*, or you’re totally freaked out at the thought of meeting a new client for the first time, let alone speaking in public, this nugget of info will help you to perform at your best.
Day 12 is where it’s at.
Hormonally, a woman’s oral performance is likely to peak on day twelve of her menstrual cycle. Now, obviously this depends on the length of each woman’s cycle, and where in her cycle she feels most at home. Some women will feel more at home during menstruation, but me, I’m an Ovulation Queen. I experience a natural expansive high around days 9 – 14: I’m social, and interested in connecting emotionally – intellectually – physically, so it’s easy for me to take advantage of the peak of Oestrogen on day 12, and use it to nail a workshop or client meeting.
Our hormones are trying to get us laid.
Why does this happen around day 12? Well, it’s often also the peak of a woman’s sexual desire, so given that ovulation occurs around day 14, it makes sense for us to be chatty and horny around day 12, as it takes sperm a few days to travel and find the egg. So very cleverly, mother nature has us out there feeling confident, horny and talkative, all so we have sex at the right time to stand a chance of conceiving.
Track your cycle.
I’m all about tracking menstrual cycles. If, every day, you jot down what day you’re on and a bit about how you’re feeling, you can start to track your own patterns. Women are actually far more predictable than the media would have us believe, and once you start harnessing the power of each phase of the menstrual cycle, you can get the most out life (more about this next week).
Plan your diary accordingly.
If you feel amazing around ovulation, try to schedule meetings where you need to perform in some way around this time; basically, anything that involves speaking. My guess is that if you feel good around this time (again, not all women do), then you’re more likely to do well. That might look like being more confident at a public speaking event, convincingly asking for a raise, or eloquently debating your point (whether you’re at work or home).
Work with me.
I’d love to hear from you if you’d like to explore the power of your own menstrual cycle. Maybe you find it a battle or go a bit nuts every month, or perhaps you want to raise your game at work and are realising this menstrual awareness stuff isn’t just a load of woo-woo.
I’m getting ready to launch a three-month coaching package at an introductory rate. I’m limiting it to six spots as I want to focus my energy on a small number of clients, so keep your beautiful eyes peeled for the details.