Parents frequently ask me about routines and crying, and whilst I can pass on some information and handy hints, I really think that the best thing they can do is to stay away from all the books! I know that we all want an instruction manual for our newborn baby, but did you get one for your partner? Think back to your first date…
What would that first date have been like if you had been provided with a manual to swot up with beforehand? You may have known that they’re always late and not bothered rushing to get there, you may have been able to order for them, or known what topics to bring up and avoid, you would have known what annoys them, and what makes them smile. Hmmm, doesn’t sound like much fun though, does it?
Yes, those first
few weeks eighteen years as a new parent are exhausting, and there will be times when you might find yourself praying to a god that you don’t even believe in, but there’s also all the precious moments, the ones where you look at your baby and are astounded with how much love you are capable of, and the ones where something just clicks, and you realise that you and your baby are getting to know each other more and more as each day passes. Being a parent is challenging, but it’s also extremely rewarding.
So, do you really need ten books that tell you, “what your baby needs”? Believe it or not, you will know without them.
The only book that I do recommend (should parents really want one) is the Science of Parenting. It’s easy to read, based on modern scientific research, and will last you all the way through to the teenage years.